It's a Thursday morning in the waiting room of my young son's speech therapy clinic. I'm amongst 4 Hispanic families. It's packed and noisy yet I can't help but notice the young mother at the front desk...
She's a distressed blonde woman, visibly upset. I overhear her conversation with 3 of the office ladies. She can't pay her bill. She's just received a $700 bill for her deaf daughter's therapy. I immediately feel for her because my son has completed his therapy and I'm there waiting to pay my huge bill (after insurance).
The lady at the front begins to cry- her little girl feeling distraught now- she doesn't understand. At this point, the lady explains she only wants to help her daughter and it's simply too expensive. I comfort her and tell her I had to make payments on mine until we were able to pay off the remaining- those bills hit a person pretty hard because you never know what they'll be ahead of time.
Out of curiosity, or rather confirmation, I asked 2 of the Hispanic mothers I knew from other waiting room visits prior to this: 'How big was your bill?' They barely spoke English but delighted in saying they did not have to pay. Another lady chimed in and shook her head, further confirming she did not have these bills either.
The irony here is, at this moment, there are a lot of folks in our country who view immigrants as the victims when the real victim is the U.S citizen (a mother who can't easily help her daughter) that can't pay a bill in which immigrants do not even receive.
I ASK YOU, 'WHO IS THE VICTIM?"
(Please note: My goal here isn't to throw immigrants under the bus- they are simply flocking to a country that shows preferential treatment to them. As an American, my goal is to show the same, equal treatment and consideration of our own citizens. Immigrants are often the focus while our citizens in need are overlooked.)
When you think of the term, "victim", what you don't see is how those around the so-called victims often become victims as well. This is the result of enabling and when we believe ourselves to be helpers- in fact we are not. It can occur in families or socially/culturally on a broader spectrum (as portrayed in this true story).
Wine Advice + Uncommon Sense
Everybody needs to express themselves in some form- mine happens to be written form...with an opinion. Occasionally I get in the mood for some wine and answer life's tricky questions.