So what do we tell our kids? As seen in numerous post-election articles. (Huffington Post article) and on the minds of every worried parent who took the news of Trump's election rather poorly.
You tell them that not only are there people who look different than you, but there are others who think differently as well.
You could tell them the same thing parents had to tell their little girls when Hannah Montana morphed into the new-and-improved Miley Cyrus. Dang, I would not want to be those parents!
More importantly, you can tell them to OVERLOOK WORDS. Kids are online, and the best defense is to overlook a lot of what's on there. Teach discretion.
Quite frankly many are accustomed to letting their kids watch copious amounts of TV programs like PBS and the Disney channel that boast specific values pretty much to a T. 'Girl power' and 'let your boys dress like girls' just to name a few "lessons" on these quality media outlets ran by a one-sided bias.
Up until now, your child hasn't had to face real differences in opinion. We've been teaching them to not judge based on looks, but what about thoughts and beliefs?
You might even keep your social circles tight. You surround yourself with like-minded individuals. But now your kids, and quite possibly you, are faced with a glaring reality that not everyone thinks like you. Enter Trump supporters- the biggest threat to America. Not really. I'm a moderate, and threats are wherever you want to find them.
Trump supporters must have represented many people or he wouldn't had seen the turnout he did- electoral votes, it wasn't even close. And here's the kicker: Not everyone who voted for Trump is a racist bigot. This seems to boggle the minds of many. That should come as some comfort, but it's not. .
Trump supporters don't share Trump's words, but they do share his vision of a prosperous America!
When everything your kids hear, or are exposed to, aligns with your specific views, it doesn't provide you with teaching tools. It provides them with a black and white world-those that agree with me and those that don't. 'I must be right because that's all I see on TV'.
The world is full of mix-ups. There are good guys and bad guys, but there are Robin Hoods ( "bad" guys that do good things). Then there are Ted Bundy's who appear good, but do bad.
Trump is a teaching moment...for parents and children alike.
He's an unpleasant truth.
Tell them the truth- you severely underestimated and discounted other's opinions because you couldn't fathom a Trump win.
There's been things I've had to explain to my kids that I didn't want to.
Trump isn't an ideal role model for your kids because you are. Plain and simple. You are who they learn from and look up to. We need to start being the YUGE role model once again in our kids' lives.
How should you handle this election with your kids? Go ahead and listen to more of the media's life-altering insight about how to deal...or why not just take your parental instincts, get re-invested in your kids, and show them your values?
Congrats if you already are!
If you do that, You don't need to tell them sh*t. There is no script for kindness. So far it's looked like political correctness. Kindness is a virtue, not a list of words you can and can't say. Words are a f*cking script because people are no more kind than what the media tells them to be. What's trending? Who is it cool to be kind to now?
Some of these proposed advocates of kindness turned into protestors and haters overnight.
If you have to tell your kids anything, then you did not tell them everything. Hate to break it to you, but there was no right or wrong in this election.
Tell your kids to stay vocal, but respectful.
Speak with your kids about making decisions that aren't easy; dealing with wins and losses.
Teach your kids about diversity, not division in our country.
There is no more pressure to all think the same and while that scares half of our country, it liberates the other half.
Intent is 9/10's of your words. There will be people reading this judging my words and unable to catch the true intent of the message. And I hope you truly get the intent here!
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