When you give yourself permission to communicate what matters to you in every situation you will have peace despite rejection and disapproval"
This is not a political statement. I realize it reeks of one at this point. I'm taking a big gamble by posting anything (positive) about Trump...and that's my point exactly!
Who says, we all have to agree? I'm taking a pledge: This election I am not trying to convince anyone to see how great my candidate is. None of them are THAT great. This has been an easy pledge so far.
What I do want to get off my chest is how I dearly wish to be able to openly talk about who I support without all the judgment- okay I'm living in dreamland. I'll accept the judgment but I won't accept keeping quiet. I won't stop being honest! Neither should you...on anything. I'm just using Trump as my example.
What I've come to learn about honesty, is that it's often mistaken for hate. Honesty is speaking your mind. Speaking your mind can help or hurt people- sometimes simultaneously, but this is part of life's learning curve.
(Here's a refresher) Honest: forthright, straight forward, upfront, candid, plain-speaking. Look up for instance, plain-speaking: "talking in a Frank, outspoken or blunt manner." When Trump did all of this, people either celebrated or pointed fingers at the bigoted, racist (and called him names like those).
However, the former (those that celebrated), were soon wearing a target on their heads. Meanwhile the ones who made their backlash public were practically wearing badges of honor. Something is wrong with this picture. And that was just the beginning.
From my point of view- a formerly withdrawn door-matted weakling (maybe not that bad but I'm trying to paint a picture here) that lived the first 28ish years of my life afraid to speak up, I appreciated the "harsh" words uttered by Trump. I found myself wishing I had the balls to get up there too.
I thought about how the last several years we have all been constantly told what NOT to say. It's affecting us negatively. Heck, everything seems to be affecting people negatively because everything is taken so personal and people are quick to snap.
The monumental change I made in my life was to begin speaking up honestly. Not always warranted, granted, but I'm honing the skill- I'm human. I'm also disappointed that what has improved my life is now publicly persecuted. (Leadership Requires Honesty).
I created this site and the Honestly Laura blog for this reason. Like you, I don't want to be judged, but I don't want to nod my head and keep quiet all the time. Although, speaking up can require a whole arsenal of tactics (you learn along the way). Your beliefs, ideals, your self, will all be attacked when you speak up honestly.
This blog is for the people who have forgotten what it looks like to speak up, to open up and relate to one another. Honesty is no longer rewarded. Outspoken comes with a negative connotation now. I want to give everyone a voice.
I am willing to put myself out there to show people it's a far more rewarding path...ultimately.
If it takes passion, or Trump, who is a little pissed (and shows it), a little fed up (and knows it) then fine. I am too.
Speaking up in the 21st century is equivalent to being charged at the Salem witch trials.
Getting your feet wet, beyond the limitations of political correctness, can have serious ramifications. Look at Trump. Now, look at his supporters. What supporters? Well, we know there’s a significant population who support him, yet it’s difficult to comprehend where it’s all coming from. They’re out there...somewhere.
He excels in anonymous polls conducted online, whereas in-person surveys, Hilary comes out ahead. Why? For as much public ridicule as Trump receives, he’s gained a substantial silent following that doesn't want the same ridicule (so they lay low). (How Many People Support Trump but Don’t Want to Admit it?)
You don’t have to be an ass-hat to support Trump, but you're likely being quiet (except for the occasional baah-baah) because the stakes are high. This is kinda what’s going on, right?! Hush-hush.
Trump supporters ALMOST celebrated. ALMOST spoke up. ALMOST felt proud to be an American again. I saw real conversations ALMOST happening. But it was all cut short when the ALMOST jollification was muted by the PC crusade. And we're left ALMOST ashamed.
(Did you know the PC culture is making people more sensitive to their own needs, not to others?
Youth suicide rates are higher, not lower.
The shootings and massacres are committed by younger generations- those subjected to political correctness their entire lives.)
Our country is falling behind and we're punished for being honest and frank.
We need to get out of the way for those coming into our country to seek The American Dream.
We're facilitating apathetic Americans.
The moral fiber of our institutions yield to the minority, slowly shrinking away, bending over backwards to accommodate terrorists while pointing fingers at our citizens who own a gun, and so forth. Too much politics? Sorry. (Stop Apologizing You Fucking Pigeon).
"Trump is politically incorrect" God bless it! He sure is! I'm really tired of keeping up with the kardashians and the growing list of micro-aggressions. (The Coddling of The American Mind). I would be happier if I could openly support him in a culture that said it's okay to come out of the closet. I don't want to lose a friend or fan, start a political battle just because I've taken the Trump's influence as a positive thing.
At first, I didn’t even care if he became president. I just loved that every time he opened his mouth it removed the proverbial stick out of our ass just a little bit more. I can ALMOST see a sense of humor coming back into style.
For a minute, I saw glimpses of people being real.
Trump has me focused on the positive.
The only negative has been knowing my support for him can make me the unpopular one in the room. But I'm listening to people. There are a lot of quiet Trump supporters, but I'm not being quiet about it anymore. Obviously.
Trump is it, for me! Considering how many people, including the GOP, wanted to silence a strong majority only serves as testament to how speaking up is devalued.
I don't want anyone to shrink away in the corner, fearing their own voice. Until I incorporated speaking up into my repertoire, I was trapped by my thoughts of what others would think of me. Would they approve of my opinions? My experiences? My beliefs?
I never considered how I was treating myself by keeping quiet and hiding from the world. There are others out there slowly shrinking away, depending on approval, staying within the status quo. Staying anonymous.
I support Trump.
I'm not a monster. You're not a monster for supporting Hilary or Bernie or Gary Johnson. We're people. I still have a difficult time admitting this and that's why it was important I write this post. Many of us have lost friends over who we support this election. Perhaps I'll lose a few followers and fans by writing this. But I've gotta be me. And I hope that encourages you to be YOU without shrinking away.
Putting a voice to your soul helps you let go of the negative energy of fear. Whatever happened to speaking one's mind? I'll tell you what happened. The kids aged, but they never grew up. A baby whines if it doesn't like something because it doesn't know better. What's your excuse? Stop getting offended whenever the wind blows your hair the wrong way. We will get nowhere if we continue to avoid truths to avoid offense."
As for me, I'll stay "Honestly Laura".
Honestly: Used to emphasize the sincerity of an opinion, belief, or feeling.
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