Sheeple- my husband's pet name for the people who wait in one long line only to ignore the fact that two other lines are completely open. They're following the herd. It makes life easier for free-thinkers because we leave them behind in the dust, blazing our own trail ahead, but it doesn't keep us from scratching our heads.
It's natural to flock to like-minded people- do what they do, think how they think (or perhaps they think how you think), but do we have to be like-minded to tolerate each other? Yes. Realistically I know that tolerance doesn't deaden the shame that burdens me when I express my beliefs.
I used to be a liberal and now I lean toward the conservative side. This is post kids, post military husband, and basically post putting myself first and realizing the implications of my thoughts on others. Let me back that with a disclaimer- that's not to say liberals only care about themselves, I'm just pointing out what changed my beliefs and thoughts. Moving on now...
If you found out I support Trump and can't stand illegal immigration (True Story) ,would that offend your sensibilities? Pass up my profile? Cause you to disregard me as a person altogether? Or fail to consider my thoughts on topics completely unrelated to Trump and immigration?
People can be pretty intolerant when it comes to beliefs and thoughts. We were all raised to believe intolerance is based on outward cues and appearance (race, sex, disability). Truth is, plenty of people will disregard me if they get a conservative vibe. Spending as much time being a liberal as I have a conservative, I can tolerate a lot, and I'm friends with various-minded people, but I can't say the same for everyone else.
You want me to think like you...
"It's a pleasure to connect with like-minded people", just a little automated Twitter message I received, but it looks similar to a hundred more. It made me realize...would you have connected with me if we didn't hold the same views?
And God forbid, (gasp), shock and awe, what if I openly disagree with you on something? It will surely be the end of our connection. Will you even listen to my thoughts before blocking me?
Even If you're not purposefully searching for like minded people, Social media generates lists of suggested fans, followers, and friends based on similar interests...and like-mindedness.
Sheeple, people who display herd behavior, need social proof.
They need others to tell them how to behave or think because it takes less thinking and effort on their part- it's easier.
There is no lack of social influence today, from every online avenue. It's hard to think for oneself anymore. I get it. But did you know some of your worst decisions will have been made regarding this lazy social thinking.
Bad decisions...and discrimination.
"We’re fine with people who don’t look like us, as long as they think like us."
(A Confession of Liberal Intolerance, by Nicholas Kristof. May 7, 2016. NY Times).
I'm not going to lie, this quote (and article) got me thinking.
And here's another doozy...
"How about we make faculties more diverse and hire idiots?" Insult slung at an African American? How about women? Maybe Muslims. Nope. Insult was targeted at conservatives. these are educated folks making these discriminatory assumptions.
Jonathan L. Walton, Professor of Christian Morals at Harvard says, “The same arguments I hear people make about evangelicals sound so familiar to the ways people often describe folk of color, i.e. politically unsophisticated, lacking education, angry, bitter, emotional, poor."
This is what it looks like when like-mindedness runs amok.
The amount of people who are unable to fathom, let alone talk to, tolerate, or relate to, someone who doesn't see the world as they do, is growing exponentially...
And who can blame them? Most can't even recognize it within themselves. I'd say because they refuse to listen, but it starts another way.
Suppose a child is raised by very liberal-minded parents and then they go to school, which it's no secret, is a liberal institution. What alternate views are they offered through their formative years? What tolerance are they learning when faced with nothing to challenge their beliefs?
By the time they exit the (coddling college) of their choice, their view is so narrow minded it would squeeze the life out of a pea.
Another side effect that accompanies a pea brain, is the absence of asking questions.
Kids, and people, have just stopped asking important questions. I remember after the same-sex marriage ruling and parents went straight (no pun intended) to social media reporting how they simply told their kids that anybody can marry anybody (aside from incest, but why not?) and kids loved it. Not mine!
I challenged several parents on their child's reactions and they said their children simply responded with, 'great', 'cool', 'neat'. Their kids didn't asked them any questions? Nope! Not a one!
My daughter asked, 'Does that mean I can marry my best friend?' Yes, I suppose. But you should have a sexual attraction or intimate relationship with that person too. That is the point of various sexual orientations (it's a sexual preference). No. I didn't say that but I could see where the conversation was going- nearly impossible to approach the subject, and similar questions (if they have them) without the mention of sex, which isn't appropriate for young children.
My kids have questions. They've seen how our views at home differ from those at school. They question me because of what they've heard at school, such as my daughters 1st grade teacher who proclaimed there's no such thing as girl or boy colors.
Ummm...ok lady! They also question their teachers because of what they learn from their family environment.
Our decisions – and what we value for our children – are threatened by others’ need to validate their own belief system, story, or choices. ~ Gustave Flaubert
Like-mindedness is a lazy-minded disease that has become socially rewarded and culturally encouraged.
"When perspectives are unrepresented in discussions, when some kinds of thinkers aren’t at the table, classrooms become echo chambers rather than sounding boards — and we all lose." (Nicholas Kristof)
If there's only two types of people in the world; those that agree with you and those that don't, you will eventually have zero tolerance for anyone who challenges your own thoughts, beliefs, and political views. Enter...social media. The controlling mecca of the 21st century.
Newsflash- If you aren't challenged, you don't grow.
A country that was built on, and has built great things out of hardships and opposing ideologies is now hell-bent on harnessing our differences for positive influence and substitute them with likeness and sameness of mind and thought, especially in schools where our kids spend a significant chunk of their time. As a parent, if you don't have a say, they will be raised as like-minded adults. In light of a progressive agenda, they may progress, but they will never grow.
If there is one thought, a universal thought or like-mindedness, there can be no truth.
Being "Honestly" Laura, I've had to define "honesty" and "truth" often. It's not just what I say goes...
I've always believed the truth lies somewhere in between everything I've ever heard, read, seen, thought, or experienced. If people don't challenge each other with individual truths, the truth cannot be uncovered.
Truth doesn't emerge from truth.
Truth lies within the intricate weavings of divergent, or conflicting, thoughts.
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