"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", ~ says...everyone
Old rock n' roll legend, Glenn Frey, died this week from complications surrounding existing medical conditions, namely Rheumatoid Arthritis. I also suffer from this debilitating disease, and it is a disease. It really isn't similar at all to your run-of-the-mill arthritis.
If you knew me before the disease (over 5 years ago), you'd know I was already a strong woman. Dare I say, this illness has made me that much stronger in ALL areas of life? Saying 'no' is no problem. Setting boundaries? Done...and done! Rising above while simultaneously accepting my limitations? Sure. I love a good challenge! And the toughest of all, asking for help.
That being said, the death of (in my opinion) the best singer for The Eagles, hit me harder than I expected. After all, it's not like I personally know the guy and I'm not a groupie type that gets all devastated by celebrity deaths. It was the fact that my life's motto has been, "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger", and I realized the same illness that makes me stronger, could actually kill me! That's a whopper of a reality!
I'm constantly walking a tightrope, balancing thoughts of normalcy and strength with the realities of just how strong I need to be before something leads to an earlier death. I am living, and literal, proof that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. But forget about death and disease, because not many of you are dealing with this (I hope not). I want to focus on where your strength and the good days come from...for all of us no matter what we're facing.
Your strength has come from all the shit you've been through: Thehaters, the doubters, the assholes, the hurt/pain (emotional, psychological, and physical), and all the garbage you've ever endured has ideally made you a better person.
"Have pride in what you've survived!" (Tweet this, you know you like it! #HonestLauraBlog)
The key is to not make these "setbacks" a place to get stuck or an excuse to fail. There is no greater lesson in choices than when we're faced with how to react to painful experiences. Leave 'em and learn is the best approach. Dwelling equals depression.
Moving on now...to the haters and hassles in the world that plague every single one of us!
I really don't know what all the fuss is about "haters", All the bullying campaigns are about as effective as anti-drug catchphrases back in the 90's. Sometimes I think this society has turned into a bunch of pansies, waiting for life to be fair and all people and personalities to submit to universal kindness. In the meantime...get over it!
"The best books have an antagonist and conflict. The best life also has these elements." (you can quote me on that).
One day, on social media I came across a woman who had written a long rant about an awful comment she received regarding her 'creative work'. Her words expressed anger toward this person and how they should not have voiced their opinion.
However, I saw this comment from a 'hater' as a very positive outcome for this woman, although so many people would also believe 'haters' need to be silenced and censored.
First, the comment spurred a massive support system out of the woodwork for this woman's creative endeavors. She garnered over 200 comments from people testifying how much they love her work. Would she have received that without the one, bad critique? No!
Of all things, a 'hater' also created a fire in this woman's belly. She wrote a great post about her passion. You could easily witness how even she was moved by 'why' she loved her creative outlet. Not to get corny, but it was beautiful. It was getting so motivational, I thought she was writing a self-help book!
Believe it or not, you really should thank these claimed negative influences. They play a major role in your strength. Next time you want to silence a hater or curse the struggles in your life, remember to quit whining. Say 'Thank You' for crying out loud!
Everybody needs to express themselves in some form- mine happens to be written form...with an opinion. Strong opinions can be useful to others. Those who were undecided or ambivalent can just adopt your stance or gain an ability to formulate their own. Those who disagree can solidify, defend, and empower their stance.