"Look at children. Of course they may quarrel, but generally speaking they do not harbor ill feelings as much or as long as adults do. Most adults show a big smile while hiding negative feelings deep inside. Children don’t usually act in such a manner. If they feel angry with someone, they express it, and then it is finished. They can still play with that person the following day.” (I'm not a Buddhist but I like their wisdom)
If adults behaved like children on social media, we'd be able to disagree, discuss among different personalities, stick our tongues out at each other, and still go out and play! Instead, there seems to be a social standard of pleasing everyone, all the time. I-M-P-O-S-S-I-B-L-E!
The same people who promote harmonious living, are the same ones who need ultimate control over their world and ideally others should follow their guidelines as well. They create a harmonious (albeit unrealistic) world by extinguishing anybody who doesn't fit into their mold. They are chronic blockers.
My post isn't meant for the occasional blocker- we've all had to do it at some point like when you find out one of your facebook "friends" is not mentally stable. I'm not referring to you, I'm addressing the serial blockers- the ones who need control, flourish under same-mindedness surroundings, and get upset over next to nothing. yes, those people!
They act as if they will be forever scarred reading something that doesn't coincide with their ideals, or heaven forbid someone disagrees with them. That would be "negative". They run their social media like little Hitlers. One push of the button and they can take you out. Facebook, and other social media sites are catering to these blockers too. Instead of spending less time on social media, they merely control what they see by blocking certain topics or people.
They don't even have to know what's going on in the world if they choose not to!
They excuse their blatant intolerance as an oath to anti-negativity and pro-peace. It's OK to be a possible terrorist, but definitely don't be negative. Did I mention the real threat they perceive in this world, is you (and me)? The ones blocked for being passionate, diligent in learning about the world, and seeing the world through a clear lens, are the biggest threat to them.
At first they ignore certain (disagreeable) posts and comments, as if avoidance is really a solution to even one of life's problems. Nope! Can't think of one!
When the going gets tough...block.
Blocking (and unfriending) on social media is breeding a bunch of ninnies and control freaks. They will not confront anyone or discuss anything. Disagree equals blocked! Their alternate reality has them feeling warm and fuzzy all over as they passively aggressively pull the strings on their puppets and play God in their online world.
I absolutely love how they send a message (to get the last word in) before they block. And it's often behind-the-scenes mean and the kind of mean they won't show online or in public. If you notice, they couldn't say anything before this, they couldn't refute just one of your points. Often they're "above" discussing difficult topics.
But when they block me I can't help but think I was right, I hit a nerve of truth, and they weren't ready for it. They also weren't prepared to back up their beliefs because those beliefs came out of thin air, and some story book running through their heads. Basically, I made them question the illusion they've worked so hard to build.
I was blocked twice this week. It doesn't happen often, but I guess I've been lucky lately. I don't typically block. I let things unfold as they may. I take the time to acknowledge opposing views to mine. I accept various personalities and perspectives in my social circle. Unless someone is crazy(ish), I have no need to block.
In real life we aren't afforded the luxury of picking and choosing what we avoid. Problems at home aren't resolved by blocking. Problems at work can't be blocked either. The negative effects of avoidance will eventually catch up to you. Inevitably you must face what you avoid in order to grow, gain resilience, or how should I put it? 'Grow up'!
I don't post anything I'm not prepared to back up or have done my research on.
I express myself and admit I'm passionate about a great many subjects. I could hide out in the superficial subject lane and not offend anyone, I could control my own perfect world, I could blog about make-up and shoes, but I'd rather tackle topics that matter. I'd rather be REAL online when blockers would rather live their online life like a fantasy world- That's what Pinterest is for!
Just one more thing to prove my point: Have you heard of The Pioneer Woman? Very popular cook, TV personality, blogger, and photographer. When asked what makes her so popular, she replied, 'I don't talk about politics or sensitive topics.' Ugh. Puke. She can't because I know for a fact that she is a Christian conservative. Not so popular online! The only way she could gain popularity in this current culture, is to hide who she is.
I learned early on that playing it safe wasn't the best way to reach the people I want to reach- the ones that want to grow, become better people, open their eyes to various views, and stay in touch with reality. The outcome is more meaningful if you reach deep.
So it got me thinking, what if we were limited to our blocking and unfriending capabilities, and people had to resolve or confront something/someone? Fascinating, right? We'd also learn great problem solving skills and true tolerance. We'd play like kids- not expecting to get along all the time, but burying the hatchet when we don't.
The next time you are unfriended or blocked, just think of it this way: You stuck to who you truly are without succumbing to what the world, and others, tell you to be! I think it's a good sign! You dared to disagree! Congrats!
"If you have no critics, you'll likely have no success." M.Forbes
Wine Advice + Uncommon Sense
Everybody needs to express themselves in some form- mine happens to be written form...with an opinion. Occasionally I get in the mood for some wine and answer life's tricky questions.