Maybe we deserve everything we get; maybe we deserve nothing we get. It's all random rain and rainbows." Susan Cain
'If you’re like me (God help you), you’ve had plenty of moments when ‘life happens’ or more accurately, ‘sh*t happens'. Everything hits the fan at once (me, again). More often than not, you feel like you’re left with a gobbledygook of a life to sort out or make sense of. WHY me???!!!
Oh! Better yet, when things seem to be looking up, you're secretly expecting the next pile to come hurling straight into the fan any moment.
Then enters karma. What a b*tch! She's supposed to keep track of these things. Somebody has been neglecting their duties.
‘Karma is a b*tch’ and you get what you deserve.' This is always a fun phrase when you see something bad happen to someone bad, but it never really seems to work out this way often enough.
First of all if karma is a b*tch, what b*tch do you know handles matters in a just and fair way? Ummm….none! So, yes karma truly is an (unfair) b*tch, getting us for no good reason and not getting the people she should!
"What did I do to deserve this?" Don't let karma talk to you like that!
She owes me a lofty sum of money for all the times I should’ve received a nickel, witnessing wonderul things happen to some of the worst people. And vice versa.
Karma leads us to believe there is a fair system in place. Defined as: "Actions of an individual affects the individual and the life he or she lives." I must be a sleep walking jerk.
I still have questions karma can't answer:
Why does sh*t happen?
Why do bad things happen to good people?
These are the questions that haunt a lot of us. There’s infinite (as the universe) ways of explaining this phenomenon.
Karma is not one of them.
Perspective and God are.
Karma is a cautionary tale at best. I’ve been through enough harsh, and seemingly unfair, times that I can tell you karma will get you no further than stepping in the same pile of sh*t every day. Wake up and look for a detour around the heaping mess, not sitting around wondering why the pile was left for you!
Perspective is a lifesaver when handling difficult cards you've been dealt. God, or a higher power, is pertinent in explaining the unexplainable- helps us find a peace on earth when we're at the end of our rope.
I’m a spiritual person, but I also live on planet earth. Like you, I want to make sense of my life here (and now). Although, it took me a while to realize there’s a lot that’s above my head. Like trying to explain to my little girl why one bunny from the pet store died and the other is alive and well.
I feel like I should have the answer, but there isn't one.
And that's what we're really dealing with. Not the "Why's", but the "Why not's"?
I wondered why bad, unforeseen and uncontrollable, stuff was happening to me. I had done everything "right". Karma failed!
God (or a higher power, whatever it may be for you) helps relieve our lack of understanding. I believe there is a bigger plan and purpose for our lives- individually, collectively, or both. Sometimes it's not for us to comprehend.
I’ve recalled the bad times and it wasn't until I connected the dots, that I saw the forest through the trees. Seeing how some of the worst things in my life led to the best. Even I couldn't make that up!
Most things in life are difficult to figure out- faith or no faith.
Kicking karma to the curb forced me to rely on perspective.
I’ve got some health issues, but I’m not dead. Eureka! The perspective that never lets me down: It may be bad, but it could always be worse!
Keeping my perspective in check gets me out of my head (dangerous place in there).
When bad things happen we feel like we’re the only ones. It’s happening to meeee! We rarely think of what's going on with somebody else! It's happening all around. And it’s much worse for others.
I remember feeling sorry for myself at age 35 when I got a chronic illness. Once I got my perspective straightened out, I learned there are children getting diagnosed with the same thing. A lot worse!
Perspective helps you see what’s good in your life- it’s flexible like that! You can adjust it like a pair of lenses.
Other things to add to your arsenal:
And karma? What karma? Ain’t no such thing in my book! But I’ll keep on doing my best because that’s who I am, not because some b*tch is keeping tabs.
I'm passionate about no-nonsense self-improvement. Too many of us are plagued by faulty thought patterns- I aim to change that!