I woke up today and said to myself, I should really write about a piece of string.
Not really. But what I did wake up to was a full blown sibling catastrophe over THIS piece of string.
I saw my 4 yr old throw a 2 yr old tantrum- Haven't seen that in a while. And I had the privilege of seeing my 8 yr old resemble our surly old chihuahua. Have you seen a chihuahua do a full-snarl face?
All this over a piece of string. My kids have other toys. They are generally level-headed and well-behaved.
However, the string incident got me thinking. Something this small and insignificant caused a hell storm in my household this morning.
It's no wonder bigger problems in our world- race, cops, terrorism, and mental health issues- can cause outright violence. If my kids were able to justify a fight over string, then the tragic events we see today are all easily justified in the eyes of the perpetrator (only 10% of crimes are committed by genuine criminals).
Now what would we do if we really felt threatened? A police man enforcing the law. An African American defending his race. A terrorist fulfilling his ideals. A mentally ill person feeling unstable in the world. All justified. All causes for over-the-top actions to be taken. Lives to be taken.
Its a problem that is making headlines nearly every week.
If you've ever had the joy of witnessing a 2yr old tantrum (I'm sorry), there's not much that doesn't justify WWIII. When they throw a fit, they see red (what they want)- nothing else. Love and tolerance (and flat-out begging on your knees and crying with them) doesn't cease the insanity of a tantrum. Go in for a loving kiss? You might get smacked. Try to talk some sense into them? You just got kicked!
Is a 2yr old a sadist evil-doer? Well......technically...no! They overreact because they feel justified. They don't understand why they can't have, or do, everything they want.
About the time kids move on from the terrible two's, the parent and child improve their ability to function in tense scenarios. Kids eventually understand better ways of handling situations and improve their tactics for obtaining what they want. Parents gain tolerance and perspective (if they haven't hired an exorcist first).
That's our job as parents- to take the high road and not lose our sh*t right along with them.
But occasionally, people lose their sh*t. They feel justified causing chaos (and even racking up a death toll).
Don't believe decent people like yourself are capable of justifying harm? In the spring of 2011, Americans celebrated in the streets following the killing of Osama bin Laden. Why? Because it was just!
Wondering WHY this violcene occurs...well...we know the answer. Violence has been justified for centuries.
It was easy to throw the piece of string away my kids were fighting over. It's not so easy to throw away the problems of the world. There are plenty of people who will justify their own suffering by making someone else suffer more. However, the best revenge is to improve yourself.
You can change the world or you can change yourself. Same difference!
For those of you working to improve yourself, I commend you for taking the high road.
NO matter what you're fighting, walk away a better person.
I'm passionate about no-nonsense self-improvement. Too many of us are plagued by faulty thought patterns- I aim to change that!