My life is about as balanced as the national debt crisis. I would need more time to get my act together than Obama and the Republicans take to compromise on the annual budget.
After all, life is math. Checks and balances. Give and take. We're constantly adding, subtracting and dividing from our resources: from money to sleep to time and basically everything of value. My worst subject was math, but this is life and I want to be good at it.
My own life crisis involves Taco Bell hot sauce (I'll get to that soon).
Four months ago we moved into a brand new house located in a large community-type neighborhood. There are basketball courts, playgrounds, green spaces, picnic areas, and bike trails. Suburban freaking heaven!
We bought bikes. I have Rheumatoid Arthritis and even walking a distance can give me hip pain that lasts two excruciating days. Biking is the only exercise I can do without a joint (not the type you smoke ) getting pissed at me and swelling to the size of a baseball.
I still have limited energy reserves though because of my illness. And I'm human. And I'm a mom. But nevertheless I've been out on my bike religiously. I've also been super tired with the moving process and our "blank canvas" house.
My first mistake was weighing myself.
I get on the scale after three months of neglecting it- I'm too busy for that nonsense and I've pretty much weighed the same for years.
I'm 7 pounds heavier now. Must be muscle gained from bike riding? Nope, my pants fit a little tighter so I'm not shrinking.
While I began an awesome new habit, I traded it for a bad habit. Downgrading I guess. Since we've moved I've been exercising more and eating out more.
When we put our former house up for sale, most people wanted to come look at it around dinner time so the realtor kicked us out. Instead of a healthy home cooked meal, we'd find ourselves at Wendy's for a quickie (not the fun kind, but there still might've been some secret sauce involved).
Once we moved into the new house, we had no refrigerator for 1 week. That's when we really amped up our visits to fast food joints (not the type you smoke either). Places I hadn't been to since my early 20's when I had an impressive stash of Taco Bell sauce packets in case of emergency. Did you know they still have endearing little messages on the Border sauce?
"Is it me or is it hot in here?"
"Ketchups hot sister"
It's like the world got more close mouthed and pussyfooted about everything and Taco Bell sauce is like f*ck it, bringing the heat and getting sassy!
So yes I've invested in eating out too much, which has turned my overall health investment of bike riding into a worthless feat.
Self-Sabotage can be sneaky.
I wondered where else in my life, and how many others, are funneling their energy and tasks into one area of their lives while unknowingly sabotaging another?! I think we've gotten used to it so much that the damage isn't noticeable unless it's 7lbs. to the hips.
We trade work for kids or kids for work. We trade time for money- reminds me of an old Eagles song (Take it To The Limit): "You can spend all your time making money. You can spend all your love making time..."
We foolishly think we're doing great. Like me riding off into the sunset on my bike. Wind in my hair. All the while packing on the pounds. It's almost a joke, but I give it mention here because I need to remind you that you're probably doing something similar. We can't expect this of our lives- the trades will catch up to us.
Any area that suffers in your life, is due to another component of your life sabotaging any best effort you put forth.
For heaven's sake re-evaluate right now! Do the math today! When you get a break. Ha! Just kidding. You won't take a break cause you're busy.
Subtract from your list! Multiply your joy and add to your life!
Why is it when we infuse energy and intention into one area of our life, another aspect has to suffer?
The answer is in doing less to get more. Truly prioritizing. Oh yeah sure, you say. Easier said than done of course but all the proof I need is in realizing I'm not getting the results I want and I'm doing more! Common sense!
Over the past few months, I've gained 7 lbs of insight.
FEELING productive is masked as exhausted and busy. I'd rather achieve better results and getting energy from actually accomplishing something. .
If you want to change, you start today,
I'm beginning to think about what's really important.
When I make a separate trip to a store to pick up a gift bow because it's a nice touch on a present, that's going to lead me to insanity faster than productivity.
Getting more from doing less lowers expectations of those around us...in a good way. People will only bug you for the important stuff because they know you value your time.
Can I do less today? That's all you need to ask yourself.
I thought I was saving time and energy by going out to eat. I now have to make an EXTRA effort to lose those extra pounds, get my kids back into preferring moms home cooking again, and the fact that I lost money by eating out this last month at "healthier" i.e. more expensive restaurants.
A fat lot of good that did me.
Since they don't make a taco sauce packet that says f*ck it, I'm forced to say adios to that extra habit and about half my to-do list.
PASS THIS ALONG TO ALL THE UNNECESSARILY BUSY PEOPLE THAT DEPSERATELY NEED THIS MESSAGE!
I'm passionate about no-nonsense self-improvement. Too many of us are plagued by faulty thought patterns- I aim to change that!