Everybody wants something from their lives right now. Knowing that life can change in an instant seems to make your path way too long. Are we there yet?
What are you doing on your life path? Is it driven by intuition or an agreeable audience? Is it difficult? Is it easy? Is it truly YOUR path? Chances are you veered off your path long ago.
You want to do what others tell you to do.
You want to do what you've always been doing.
You want to do what others are doing.
You need proof.
You need political correctness to feel "safe".
You want to hear and see and filter the sh*t out of your life so that the change, or life, you desire can never break down the barrier you've created, or what others have created for you.
You haven't thought for yourself in decades!
How do I know this? Canned laughter- that fake recorded laughter in the background of shows makes you laugh more- science tells me this. You need to be told when to laugh.
I know you've seen a post on Facebook (or other social media) that you like, but no one else has liked it so in turn you don't like it. You need proof- you need someone else to do it before you. You need social permission to move your pinky finger.
If others have done it, if others approve, it's the right path for you! Wrong!
I've never believed anything good comes easy. Apparently neither does Tony Robbins (I'll get to that in a second)! Leaves have to die, and fall, in order for winter to come and new growth to occur. It's a complicated process that I feel my life follows as well.
Maybe I've just had one of those lives where easy doesn't come easy. I'd rather make things easy for others than myself...at times (but I'm learning).
Maybe it's what I project into the universe.
Maybe I'm so thick-headed I have to learn the hard way.
Nevertheless, I am on the right path! And again, not the easiest path, but I feel and know it's the one for me (fearlessly trusting my intuition is half the battle).
Wherever you're struggling is where you're not trusting yourself.
I'm reminded of a story in the wonderful documentary on Anthony (Tony) Robbins.
"I Am Not Your Guru."
It was amazing how many times he should've potentially offended people but they weren't (because they knew his intentions were good)- we've lost sight of this and easily assume all offense (tough love, tough advice) is a negative gesture. We no longer take someone's intent or heart into account.
Tony is known/famous (because people like social proof of course) for helping people past the barriers in their life. They trust him so he gets to rip them a new one!
In this documentary he was insulting to people (no other way to describe it). He was often tough, sometimes compassionate too (whatever the situation called for). He says...
There is reality and then there is political correctness "
He can't do what he does and follow the level of social politeness we've adapted to over the last 10 years.
You quickly discover this with the opening scene in the documentary. He begins with a shocker. There was a case with this very anxious man who had attempted suicide- he must have had self-esteem the size of an ant's brain (I can't think of anything smaller at the moment). Tony didn't coddle him. He looks at the guy and without a moment of hesitation says, 'Look at you man. Look at those f*cking red shoes you are wearing. Those couldn't be any more f*cking red.' (shocker delivered).
How many of you would dare say that to a guy known to attempt suicide, and a very sad case indeed?
You could see the mental shift in this guy. Change occurred in one moment. It wasn't the same sh*t he's heard from everyone else. 'Please don't commit suicide'. 'You have everything to live for.' Blah blah blah! Tony even shakes his head at him and laughs. The guy laughs too because essentially he just poured out his broken-record sob story (the one he's been rehearsing and replaying in his head for, like, ever!) and this is what Tony had for him.
Brutal honesty! Proud moment for me because this is how I operate (not always by popular opinion), but I saw almost 8 years ago (my first blog post) how this helped people. Break down those walls with some damn honesty! And build you up from your core, not your projected image.
After all, image is safe. It protects that vulnerable core.
Your image? That's the walls you've built up staring back at you.
(I highly recommend this documentary. You can watch it on Netflix, possibly rent it, and/or buy it. Be open to it and you'll get something from it.)
Moral of the story: We all want to hear what we like but too often it's not what we need to hear. If it sounds harsh (and f*ck everything does nowadays with the PC police lurking around every corner) then it might be something you need.
Evaluate the source of critique and decide if it's valid- not meaning to cause you direct harm for the heck of it. If it's not easy, is there something you need to learn from it?
Don't listen to the parrots- the groups of people who are the naysayers (with all negative) or the groups of enabling sheep who tell you everything you want to hear (all positive).
The truth is somewhere in the middle of what you think it is and what you don't think it is.
This requires individualization on your part. Could it be everyone else is wrong about you and your life? But agreeing with you is a reflection of their image. You haven't even considered that. Think for yourself for once!
Choose to grow!
I'm passionate about no-nonsense self-improvement. Too many of us are plagued by faulty thought patterns- I aim to change that!